Best way to let parents know I smoke
So yeh, yesterday I got caught shoplifting, and then today the school called and said I have been skipping, and my mom also accused me of starting to smoke again. I used to, she caught me, and I said I stopped. I need to tell them I do it, they basically know, but I just have to confirm it, but I want them to know that I'm not a different person while I'm on it.
What are some important facts/things to tell them?
I think your fucked if your going the "Im not a different person when I smoke" route. I mean, you got caught shoplifting and skipping school. Obviously this isn't normal behavior for you, so maybe you are a different person when you smoke. Either way, if you want to get along with your parents, tell them the truth, quit stealing, go to school, and live by their rules while you live in their house.
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Make sure to tell them its not an escape, that you do it occasionally, and that its not as bad for you as most commercials say it is, and that you do it as a way to relieve stress or to reward yourself for doing homework or paying attention. Oh, and another important thing is to make sure to tell them that you are not shoplifting to pay for weed, that's an important one.
Last edited by onletme; 10-01-2008 at 09:23 PM.
Well, not to be a dick or anything, but you have to stop being an idiot first. If you want them to know you can be responisible about it, then stop doing dumb shit like shoplifting and skipping school. Don't give them any reasons for them to think you can't be responsible.
My friends say I should slow down a little, but this shit
I'm on makes me slow down a lot
I've been doing drugs(not just weed, but "hardcore" drugs) since I was 12. When I was 15 my mom started talking about weed with me, she was open saying she had smoked when she was my age, and still did occasionally. She then asked about my thoughts. I immediately told her I smoked, didn't drop the "Coke/acid/shrooms etc" on her at that point, and she was pretty cool with it.
Ya your parents may not agree with your choice, but just tell them, they may go the route "not in my house" tell them you will respect their request etc.
But honestly if they are the kind of people to put you into rehab over that shit, go find new parents.
Also, if you are into "hard" drugs, do what I did. I told my mother what I was doing(never admitted to shooting up until she found a spoon with char on the bottom and absolutely caked with morphine) just so she would not think I was losing my shit again(I have a list of Mental Illnesses, and I also have Diabetes, I didn't want to be checked back into the mental hospital because she caught me tripping on acid and thought I was succumbing to my schizophrenia). Seriously I say be honest, ya your parents may not like your decisions and may try to "ground" you etc. But it's better to be honest than live in a life of fear over your drug use(heh, like a former admin here still lives in fear of his parents catching him with anything even though he's 22)
Oh yea, Shoplifting is not going to make your parents think you can make responsible decisions.
I've been arrested for Underage consumption(profiled and pulled over at 2am) and Paraphernalia(Cop broke a few laws in finding out, and I brought a lawyer to court and the Judge did not care) But i payed for my court costs, both arrests before I was 18(ergo i did not give 2 fucks because I knew my slate would be cleared at 18) Be responsible and don't be an idiot
Last edited by Vengeful Scars; 10-01-2008 at 09:54 PM.
New School Ass Blaster
Don't.
Seriously, just don't. There's little to nothing that you can do to make it all right in your parents' eyes, unless you've got 'rents like Scars -- and it don't sound like that's the case.
"You're entitled to your own opinion, but you're not entitled to your own facts." ~Moynihan
Other than the fact he shoplifted and he's probably in a world of shit, I don't see too much that'd be bad about being open with your parents.Originally Posted by Ollie Cromwell
Like by admitting to smoking weed what bad could happen?(Yes I do understand the interventions privileges taken away etc) But i seriously think having an open relationship with the people closest to you is the way to go.
Though.... I bet if I told my dad when I was 15 that I smoked he'd probably have beat my ass(he drinks anywhere from 2-4cases a day, though I've never seen him drunk....and I know for a fact he's smoked in the past).
I'd just wait for this shit storm to settle
New School Ass Blaster
My parents have always smoked...I grew up around it, and was always told it was safe and ok to do so long as your responsible and don't drive etc. etc. so naturally I started at a young age. I was 9 the first time I tried it. I smoked off and on until I was 13 then it became an every day thing. My mom walked into my room just after I got through smoking a bowl when I was 15 and said you smell like weed...have you been smoking? I knew I was caught so I just admitted to it. She said she was disappointed but didn't say I couldn't. About 3 months later we started smoking together when she found out I got better smoke than she could find.
For your situation I would reccommend not smoking for awhile and get a job and keep said job in order to earn your parents trust back. Save your money get your own place and invite them over for dinner or something and spark up a j after dinner.
"If you always do what you almost did, you will always get what you almost got." Phredrick
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Deny till you die! :P
In this playhouse of infinite forms I have had my play, and here have I caught sight of him that is formless.
I used to be scared of getting caught. I eventually told my dad about everything, including the hard drugs, and told my mom about weed. Havn't had a problem since.
I can. Anyone who is as uncomfortable with him smoking weed as the rest of the nation seems to be would likely curtail a great deal of his freedom. Given her current reaction already, and her immediate need to seek out "smoking" as the motivation for OP to be a fuckup, better to not give her that opening. In my opinion, anyhow.
Again, I think your parents are the exception, not the rule.
"You're entitled to your own opinion, but you're not entitled to your own facts." ~Moynihan
I told my parents and its really a big load of your shoulders, and prevents alot of problems, but then again i dont steal or skip school. I think you have to analyze your situation, and choose whats better for the years ahead of you.
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I've never openly told my 'rents. When i was 16 they found my pipe, and weed and took them. And I got arrested not to long ago for possession, but I have never just openly told them I smoke just that it was a now and then thing. Right now they don't think I smoke because i'm trying to get a job and they know im not worried about a drug test (sythetic urine is the shit).
Well, its over. I was caught smoking a cigarette today so I just confessed to the smoking pot thing to. They took it ok, they dont agree with it, but accept my decision to do it 'once in a while':P. Anyway, yeh feels better now tht they know. They were more pissed about the shoplifting thing.
DONT SHOP LIFT BOY!! Things are good so far dont jack it up. keep smoking.
“Prohibition goes beyond the bounds of reason in that it attempts to control a man's appetite by legislation and makes crimes out of things that are not crimes.” - Abe Lincoln
"Imagination is more important than knowledge." Albert Einstein
"Yes Pantera! YEAA YEEAA!!" - Beavis.
wow your lucky if I got caught doing all that i would be in so much shit. Even though my mom told me she smoked at my age she still would flip a shit (again) if I got caught smoking (again)
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First of all, don't shoplift haha that's just dumb. For skipping school...well don't do it a lot? occasionally, as long as you're responsible and keep your grades up and shit, should be fine.
I never really told my parents that I smoke. I guess it was pretty obvious when they found my packed bowl and when my four year old little girl neighbor found my missing piece in the couch.
I don't know. My parents were completely ridiculous when they found that stuff. They went psychoooooo no joke, but after a while they realized that I'm going to do what I want to do with myself.
"that's twack-tastic"
Try this-
"Mom, dad.......I smoke drugs." They'll get over it and learn to accept it eventually. I have a much more open and honest relationship with my parents now because of this approach.
Disclaimer-djwolford generally gives terrible advice. Unless otherwise noted, listening to his advice could cause a wide variety of problems including but not limited to:Physical and/or mental harm, incarceration, unwanted children, death, and/or hiv(the virus that causes aids.).
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